6-Questioner
Questioners believe they must gain certainty and security in a hazardous world which they can’t trust. Consequently, Questioners are trustworthy, inquisitive, a loyal friend and questioning. They can also be overly doubtful, accusatory and fearful.
Think: Anderson Cooper, David Letterman, Ellen DeGeneres, Kelly Ripa, Hugh Jackman, David Letterman, Diane Keaton, Charlie Sheen, Julia Rogers, Ben Affleck
Sixes are hypervigilant scanning the horizon for what might happen so they can be prepared to react instantly. They also rely on their mind which is often reeling with “what if” possibilities of negative, fearful possibilities. Sixes are filled with paradoxes of being equally weak and strong, shy and outgoing, challenging authority or surrendering to it.
Questioners find it hard to trust in people and situations and trust needs to be earned. Once they do, they will devote themselves to others or a philosophy, cause, government, or community. They are their own worst enemy, skeptical of authority, difficulty reaching decisions, worries a lot, worst case scenarios.
Socially Questioners want to be safe and secure, to fit in and belong. Once the trust is built and they have certainty of security, they are faithful, friendly, loyal, dedicated and reliable. Sixes can be endearing and childlike one minute and a devil’s advocate the next questioning everything. They are slow to trust new acquaintances and question motives and agendas. Once others have proven that they are trustworthy, they are allowed in Sixes trusted circle and will be devoted to them.
Professionally Questioners focuses on solving organizational problems by developing a creative problem-solving environment in collaborations which each person so they feel that they are part of the solution. They are very loyal to the company and their co-workers, responsible, practical, collaborative, strategist, sharp intellect, anticipates problems.
Unhealthy Questioners become excessively devoted to a tradition or community (church, party, company) and can become blind followers. They give away their power to the authorities while at the same time not trusting the authorities. As distrust escalates, Sixes become suspicious and begin to worry a lot. Fear can immobilize them from taking appropriate action in their life. Those in relationships them may feel controlled by the Sixes doubts and second-guessing each decision.
HealthyQuestionersfocuses on being prepared, loyal to family and traditions, a few very trusted friends important to them, likes clearly defined tasks and does them well, able to act quickly, challenges own worries by doing courageous things, reliable, very likable. Once in a trusted and committed relationship can be a very loyal and caring partner.
There is more to the dynamics that make up your personality: how much growth you have had, wings (personalities on either side of your home type), your stress patterns.
Understanding all of these will give you a deep understanding of yourself…but most importantly how to grow and Get Loved The Way You Need.