Supporters believe that in order to be loved they must put others’ feelings and needs before their own and that love is not unconditional. Supporters are caring, helpful, supportive and relationship-oriented. They can also be prideful, overly intrusive and manipulative.
Think: Arianna Huffington, Princess Diana, John Travolta, Paula Abdul, Ted Turner, Josh Groban, Suze Orman, Dolly Parton, Danielle Steele, Alan Alda
Supporters believe love and relationships are their life and not just a part of their life. They are warm, approachable and can be counted on to “be there” for others. They are the “go to” person for advice and when you need help. They have the ability to sense and feel what other people need and spend a great deal of effort and energy to meet those needs in order to create connection.
Socially Supporters are warm, sympathetic, modest, and prefer to put others in the limelight. They are often popular and have a large, eclectic group of friends. Supporters nurture others in the hope that in return others will make them a part of their lives. Twos are great listeners and cheerleaders.
Professionally, Supporters focus on relationships, helping, motivating & facilitating people toward their achievements. They want to be liked, meet the needs of others and be included. Twos are warm, empathetic, supportive and motivating. At work, they are challenged with being overly accommodating, feeling unappreciated, people pleasing, giving too much. Supporters choose careers where they are helping or assisting others such as HR, assistants, nurses, and caregivers. Whatever their career, their underlying motivation is to help others.
Unhealthy Supporters also love deeply, but they attach strings to their love. They work hard to become indispensable andtheir giving can feel intrusive, unaware of others’ boundaries, overly responsible, typically unaware of own needs, strong sense of pride in intuitively being able to see and meets other’s needs. Supporters can become possessive of their loved ones and friends becoming too emotionally available and involved in others’ problems.
Healthy Twos focus on giving unconditionally and relationships, love is most important, nurturing, modest, not needing much recognition, praising and encouraging others, people person, good listener, wants to be appreciated for helping. Will shower you with attention and see your best qualities.
There is more to the dynamics that make up your personality: how much growth you have had, wings (personalities on either side of your home type), your stress patterns.
Understanding all of these will give you a deep understanding of yourself…but most importantly how to grow and Get Loved The Way You Need.